How To Not Die Alone The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love
HOW THIS BOOK CAN HELP In this book you’ll discover you’re not alone. You’re not the only one struggling with these doubts. You and your questions and concerns are totally normal. There’s no certainty in relationships, but you can approach your decision- making in a more strategic way, pulling from research that understands the strengths and weaknesses of our brains (and our hearts). Intentional Love is informed by both relationship science (what works for long-term relationships) and behavioral science (how to get us to follow through on our intentions). I will give you a process. And process creates peace. It’s worked for my clients, and I know it can help you.
Section 1: Getting Ready We’ll start with an exploration of why dating today is harder than ever before. Then you’ll take a quiz to gure out your dating blind spots—tendencies in your life that are holding you back, likely without you even realizing it. Then I’ll explain how your tendencies aect your dating life and what you can do to overcome them. Next we’ll talk about attachment theory and how it aects whom and how you love. I’ll set you straight about what to look for in a long- term partner. It’s likely not what you think.
Section 2: Getting Out There We’ll take a deep dive into dating apps. I’ll help you identify and overcome the common pitfalls of modern dating. We’ll have you swiping better, meeting people in real life (IRL), and going on dates that don’t feel like job interviews. You’ll learn a better system to decide whom you should see again.
Section 3: Getting Serious Then we’ll talk about how to handle major decision points in your relationship, including how to dene the relationship (DTR) and determine if you should move in together. I’ll walk you through how to decide if you should break up,
how to break up with someone, and how to get over heartbreak. If things progress, you may nd yourself asking, “Should we get married?” The last chapter of this section will help you answer that question. Finally, we’ll end with techniques to make your long-term relationship successful by investing daily attention and designing relationships that shift and change as the people in it grow, too.
COMMIT TO TRYING SOMETHING DIFFERENT You’re reading this book because you want to nd love. Perhaps you’ve dated a series of people who haven’t brought out the best in you, who left you disappointed and alone. Or maybe you haven’t been dating at all. School and work and family and all the complexities of life have gotten in the way. But you know deep down that you want to nd someone. I’m here to help you get to that next step. I want you to think of yourself as my dating-coaching client. Here’s my ask of you: Commit to doing the exercises. (They really work!) And allow me the chance to change your mind. You’ve done things your way for your entire life. Why not try something dierent? A lasting, loving relationship may very well be waiting for you on the other end.